The Applause that Refreshes

 ”Do you think my hair is soft and shiny?” Jessica asked Josh one moonlit evening. Josh answered, “Yep.”"And are my eyes bright and beautiful?” she continued. “Yep,” he replied.

“After a few minutes Jessica forged ahead, “Josh, do you think my skin is smooth and clear?” “Yep.”

At this, Jessica smiled brightly and declared, “Oh Josh, you say the sweetest things!”
I hope that Jessica can get what she needs from Josh! Not that a relationship should be built on flattery, but sincere compliments are a way of saying, “I care enough to notice.” They can also immensely improve relationships which are NOT romantic in nature.

Granted, some people feel suspicious, embarrassed, or defensive when complimented. They sometimes suspect that fine words might be part of a manipulative design. And quite often, people respond to compliments with mixed emotions rather than plain gratitude, primarily because they find the sincerity behind them suspect.

But in most instances, SINCERE encouragement can bolster self-confidence and cement friendships. In love relationships, thoughtful compliments can help keep the fires of romance burning vigorously.

One marriage counselor says, “Compliment your spouse at least once every day.” He cautions against flattery by adding, “It should be sincere. Then point out something NEW you appreciate about him or her every week. Make sure it is something you have never mentioned before. You’ll be surprised at what it does for your marriage.”

Compliments cost nothing and can accomplish so much. They are the applause that refreshes.

cheers, BobbyWan

Priorities In Life

  I believe our priorities in life are very important. They decide what we end up doing and getting in life.Our differences in priorities are what make us different. One of my highest priorities is being healthy. This has always been with me since childhood.

I never wanted to smoke because I knew it would make me less healthy. I never understood why any athlete would even consider smoking.

However, maybe they believed at the time it would make them cool or maybe help them attract members of the opposite sex. But, in my mind, those are very poor values. You are willing to risk your life and health for the good opinion of others.

So many people fall into this trap. When I see someone smoking, I know they have very different priorities than I do. I hate cigarettes. I also tend not to associate with people who smoke as far as possible. I want to be around people who are into clean living and people who don’t fall for pear pressure.

Another very important value I have is of being thin. This ties in with my health value. I bet you that my values are very different from someone who is overweight. I’m quite sure that if they had my values plus beliefs then they would be thin as well.

If I put on two or three extra kilos of fat, I would start getting worried.

I’d immediately form a plan to get rid of the fat. Luckily, I’ve only had to implement these plans a few times. But I never let these extra kilos get out of hand.

I think many people who are overweight may not take any action on their weight problems until they are 20 or more kilos overweight. Maybe they think it is natural to put on kilos as the years go on. Maybe they are just joining the crowd and being like almost everyone else these days.

I do feel that people have legitimate problems maintaining a healthy weight. For some it is easier than others. . I think that most people who get overweight also feel like they can’t control themselves.

We all have our problems in life. For some people it is a weight issue. For others it’s a self-esteem issue. So, I’m not putting people down who are overweight. We all have our problems. This is what we try to share our challenges and solutions with peoples around. It’s about helping you overcome your life issues and being the best you can be.

I am just amazed at what I see every day. I’d say more than 30% (est) of the people I see are overweight here. An interesting thing I found is that the people here are much ‘fatter’ than in our neighbouring countries.  We must have higher priorities when it comes to putting on extra weight.

A great exercise is to make a list of your values in life and then prioritize them. You may find that due to inertia you aren’t even following your own list of priorities or you may want to change the order of some of your values.

Here’s a sample list: (I’m not suggesting that this should be your values.)

1.      Financial Independence
2.      Family
3.      Happiness
4.      Freedom
5.      Health
6.      Friends

I see a little problem with this list of values. You may see some problems as well. If you rank financial independent higher than happiness, you’ll be willing to have a job or career you hate to make yourself a success.

Of course, for many people that wouldn’t be a success at all. Life is a journey and you should enjoy the ride as much as possible. This person might also work in a job where people smoke because he values  financial independence higher than his health.

Here is a possible different ordering of priorities. You may find problems with this order in your own life. Nevertheless, it just shows you how your values and how you prioritize them changes what you do in life.

1.      Happiness
2.      Health
3.      Freedom
4.      Financial Independence
5.      Family
6.      Friends

People who derive lots of happiness from their families and friends might order this list quite differently. Make your own list of up to 10 values or more if you like. Then order them and play around with them. Are you actually living within your own value system or have you slipped?

Keep in mind that you shouldn’t have to struggle to live within your values. They are who you are. But you may want to change some of your values if your current values aren’t serving you.

cheers,
BobbyWan

Subconscious Mind Idea Generator

Here’s a proven technique to generate ideas…Before going to bed, write down all of the main benefits and features of your product / service. Just do a total brain dump and let all ideas and thoughts flow. Write them down. You could also do this when brainstorming headlines.

Really let it all hang pout, and spend some quality time doing this. Before you do any of this, ask yourself a question like, “What are the most hard hitting benefits of what I’m offering?

It’s VERY important that you write this down. Also be as specific as possible with your question. Then begin to immediately write down the best ideas that come to mind.

You need to do at least 25 of these for starters. The more the better. Don’t worry about qualifying your answers, that can come later. The important thing is to make your mind stretch a bit to come up with the answers.

Spend at least 30-40 minutes doing this. The closer to bedtime that you do this, the better.

After you complete this little exercise, give it a rest. Go to bed or do something else. What you may not realize is that your subconscious mind will continue to work on this long after you have stopped writing.

It’s one of those things that is so wonderful about the power of the human mind. Really.

After awakening the next morning, it’s important that you begin writing your sales letter. You’ll be fresher, more alive, and have the power of your subconscious mind in your corner which has been working on your behalf all the time that you’ve been sleeping.

You will receive intuitions and creative thoughts about how to craft your sales letter like never before.

Why?

This is the power of the subconscious mind at work with what Napoleon Hill referred to as “Infinite Intelligence”. You must realize that entire books have been written about this subject, but I’m condensing it here so you get the main theme.

What you’ll also notice happening throughout the day as you focus on other things, is that new ideas that answer your original question will suddenly appear in your head that seem to come from nowhere.

Here’s a very important point…

Make sure you are in a position to write down these little intuitive thoughts or summarize them RIGHT AWAY because they will fade as quickly as they come. Wait even 30-60 minutes and you’ll probably have trouble recalling what came into your mind before.

You certainly don’t want to miss these little gems.

They can be worth thousands, even millions to you if you apply them properly. Everybody has them, but they don’t always pay attention.

**Note** This technique can also be applied to everyday problems in your own life. Just start with as specific a question as you can, and generate a volume of answers with a very focused session, and LET IT GO.

I guarantee that if you use this technique on a regular basis, you’ll not only experience better results with your copywriting, but you’ll be able to solve problems quicker and easier than ever before.

It works! Do it today and let me know how you came out:)

One of Life’s Useful Manuals

Many people are afraid of growing old. I’m afraid of growing old and boring.Many people are afraid of growing old, alone. I’m afraid of growing old, insane.

Many people are afraid of losing their looks. I’m afraid of losing my dreams.

Many people are afraid of losing their youth. I’m afraid of losing my soul.

When you’re 15, 35 seems ancient. When you’re 35, 15 seems juvenile.

A turn around in a split second – two decades zoom past and before you know it, it’s only a mile to the next millenium.

Don’t’ fear age- it’s a right of personhood. Don’t fear death- it’s God’s greatest jest.

Don’t grow old – you don’t have to.

Don’t date because you’re desperate. Don’t marry because you’re miserable.

Don’t have kids because you think your genes are superior.

Don’t separate because you think it’s fashionable. Don’t drink because you have troubles.

Don’t gamble because you think winning is inevitable.

Don’t philander because you think you’re irresistible. Most likely, you’re not.

Don’t associate with people you can’t trust. Don’t cheat. Don’t lie. Don’t pretend.

Don’t try to buy your way into the kingdom of God.

Don’t dictate because you’re smarter. Don’t demand because you’re stronger.

Don’t sleep around because you think you’re old enough and know better.

Don’t hurt your kids because loving them is harder.

Don’t sell your self, your family or your ideals.

Don’t stagnate. Don’t regress. Learn a new skill. Find a new friend. Start a new career.

Don’t live in the past. Time can’t bring anything or anyone back. Don’t put your life on hold for possibly Mr. Right.

Don’t throw your life away on absolutely Mr. Wrong because your biological clock is ticking and you can’t afford to have
your eggs harvested before the new millenium.

There’s always a mad rush to something, somewhere but victory does not always belong to those who finish first.

Sometimes, there is no race to be won only a price to be paid for some of life’s more hasty decisions.
You can’t always go with the throng who could be wrong.

Sometimes, you have to be alone to be enlightened.

To terminate your loneliness, reach out to the homeless.

To feed your nurturing instincts, care for the needy.

To fulfill your parenting fantasies, get a puppy.
Don’t bring another life into this world for all the wrong reasons.

To keep yourself warm, buy a jacket.

In the long-run, it will be less complicated and less costly.

To make yourself happy, pursue your passions and be the best of what you can be.

Simplify your life. Take away the clutter. Get rid of destructive elements

- abusive friends, nasty habits and dangerous liaisons.

Don’t abandon your responsibilities but don’t overdose on duty.

Don’t live life recklessly without thought and feeling for your family.

Be true to yourself. Don’t commit when you’re not ready.

Don’t keep others waiting needlessly.

Fall in love – it’s the greatest thing on earth. But take care and remember, after the fall must come the rise.

Go on that trip. Don’t postpone it. Say those words. Don’t let the moment pass.

Do what you must even at society’s scorn. Write poetry.

Love deeply. Walk barefoot. Hold hands. Dance with wild abandon. Cry at the movies. Take care of yourself.

Don’t wait for someone to take care of you. You light up your life. You drive yourself to your destination.

No one completes you – except you.

It is true that life doesn’t get easier with age. It only gets more challenging.

Don’t be afraid. Don’t lose your capacity to love.

Pursue your passions. Live your dreams. Don’t lose faith in God.

Don’t grow old. Just grow-up.

cheers,
BobbyWan

Asia Internet Congress 2007

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• World-Class Speakers- Each speaker is carefully selected and will speak on a specific topic .
  Networking Sessions – Attendees will have opportunity to network with speakers and ask questions throughout  event.
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cheers,

BobbyWan

How to give yourself suggestions that instantly change negative states

Have you noticed how the truth seems to be so powerful that we cannot really believe anything but the truth? For example, if you feel miserable and you think positively, ‘I feel great!’, it doesn’t really work does it? It just isn’t true.

But what about those occasions when we do accept lying. For example, who knows what will happen in the future? In the next week? In the next hour? Or even in the next second. If you feel negative now, who is to say that you won’t feel better in the next second, even? Have you ever felt down and then you had a visitor, or the telephone rang and you felt wonderful! Has that ever happened to you?

You fly into a good mood! Yet we often accept the lie that because we feel bad now, we will feel bad in the future! Totally illogical and untrue. Actually it is probably untrue that we can feel the same way for more than a minute or two. Try meditating, and notice how difficult it is. Our feeling and thoughts change all the time, we just have to recognise it.

You can use the same principles to fly into a good mood whenever you want. In fact, you can use this technique for more or less anything. Here’s how:

• Tell the truth: If you feel unhappy, in pain, angry or whatever, acknowledge this. Say, ‘I feel lousy!’, or however you feel.
• Tell the truth: You don’t feel how you want at this moment, but who is to say that in the next second, the next few seconds even, you might feel better. You don’t believe you will, but you have to admit that it is possible. Tell yourself this. ‘I feel unhappy, but I don’t know how I will feel in the next second or two.’ Your subconscious mind believes this because it is true. Mm! Yes it is, isn’t it?
• Notice how your feelings or states begin to change. Ask yourself, ‘Have I noticed how I am now beginning to feel better?’ Notice how you do actually feel better.
• Now it is true, tell yourself, ‘I am beginning to feel better.’
• Don’t forget to thank your unconscious mind.

Are you aware of how easy it is to change when you know how to?

How to Tell the Sex of a Fly

  How to Tell the Sex of a Fly

JUST TOO CUTE.

A woman walked into the kitchen to find her
husband stalking around with a fly swatter

“What are you doing?”
She asked.

“Hunting Flies”
He responded.

“Oh. ! Killing any?”
She asked.

“Yep, 3 males, 2 Female s ,” he replied.

Intrigued, she asked.
“How can you tell them apart?”

He responded,
“3 were on a beer can,
2 were on the phone.

Have a nice day:)

A Dream That Will Catch Your Heart

 That all-too-quotable Yogi Berra once said, “If you don’t know where you are going, you might wind up someplace else.” There is something to be said for knowing where you’re going. But even if you know where you want to end up, do you REALLY WANT to go there? Is the dream you are following IMPORTANT to you?Motivator Tony Robbins says, “People are not lazy. They simply have impotent goals — that is, goals that do not inspire them.”

They don’t accomplish what they set out to do because they lose interest. Their dream, their goal, is really not that important to them.

I think of Dennis Oehler. He ran the 100-meter dash in 11.73 seconds. Record-holder Carl Lewis ran it in 9.92 seconds, a full 1.8 seconds faster. So what’s the big deal? Carl Lewis has two legs. Dennis Oehler has one. One leg…and a huge dream.

The truth is — we are always highly motivated when something means a great deal to us. Any person who falls into deep water and does not know how to swim will become highly motivated in an instant! Why? Because now there is something this individual wants more than anything else in the world. He or she wants to survive, and nothing had better get in the way! A person gasping for air will become one of the most excited and enthusiastic persons imaginable!

So it is with us all. If we want something badly enough, we will find enough energy, excitement and drive to relentlessly pursue it.

Writer Tim Redmond says this about following worthwhile dreams:

“There are many things that will catch my eye, but there are only a few that catch my heart…it is those I consider to pursue.” Is your dream big enough — important enough — to capture your heart? If so, you will pursue it with abandon and will surprise even yourself at how successful you can be!

How Can Fear Be Your Friend?

What is FEAR? Simple, it is
 
F alse
E xperience
A ppearing
R eal
 
“Why is it false?” you may ask.
It is only as real as you want it to be. Fear is an energy,
in fact all emotions and all things are made of energy.
EMOTION = Energy in MOTION.

All emotions cannot be held indefinitely; try to hold a
single emotion continuously for 15 minutes!
This energy is meant to move on. It didn’t because we
have allowed our amygdala (part of our brain) to reign
supreme over that issue. The answer is that Emotion
has been frozen in time with the memory stuck to it.
Working with the ‘glue of experience’ which are
“Time”, “Space”, “Energy” and “Matter” we can
definitely disengage that emotion, especially when
it is negative eg. Fear, Anger, Hurt, Sadness etc
In the long run it is just not healthy for our nervous
system and therefore our health.

Whenever we experience FEAR, do we say to ourselves,
“Wow, it feels good, let’s have more of it!” I don’t think so.
So let me ask you, “How much of what you don’t want is
enough?”

We know logically that “If we continue to do whatever we’ve
been doing, we’ll continue to get whatever we’ve been getting.”
But why can’t we stop? Maybe, it’s because we keep holding
on to our past. Everytime we face a situation, we are ‘reacting’
from our past experience, and therefore we fail to act ‘newly’.
And if we fail to act newly, the vicious cycle continues…

Become Aware….

“Destiny is not a matter of chance, it is a matter of
choice; it is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved.” —— William Jennings Bryan

What if you knew that there was a conspiracy…

This conspiracy has kept millions from living their lives with any real purpose – so instead, they live their lives following other’s directives, working for “corporate cults” and allowing ourselves to be enslaved in an age of “freedom”. This conspiracy carries on from generation to generation – mostly hidden from our conscious awareness.

This conspiracy has prevented great authors, great singers, great inventors, and budding new talents from ever tapping their hidden genius.

“How could such a conspiracy continue in such a free world?”

Ahh, your question begins the search… and is the first step in awareness. First we need to become aware that it’s even happening. When you sense conflict, stress, anger, or anguish… you’re taking the first step towards solving this age-old deception.

So, what insidious force is wreaking all this havoc? Is it some government institution? Is it some corporation? Is it some alien race?…

The Culprit Is Revealed…

This mysterious force is known as the Ego. The Ego?

The part of each of us that is both our undoing and acts as the “mailman” who delivers our greatest lessons in life.

So, if we run from our fears, instead of asking them for the true lesson they have to teach us, we’ll be doomed to repeat the same pain and suffering that we’ve been experiencing in our past

But, you now know the secret… deep within you.

As you go forward today and into your week, just become aware of your feelings, and notice your breathing. If something in your life causes you stress or unrest, You NOW know that it’s just trying to teach to how to rise above it…

The more you notice and observe the ego as it tries to overtake you, the more you sense the real perception into the deception – the deception of the Ego. And the return of the REAL you – Your True Self- Your Spirit.